Snarky Kisses - Part 5

Do you ever feel, like a plastic bag?
Drifting through the wind, wanting to start again?

Do you ever feel, feel so paper thin?
Like a house of cards, one blow from caving in?

Do you ever feel, already buried deep?
Six feet under scream, but no one seems to hear a thing?

Do you know that there’s still a chance for you?
Cause there’s a spark in you.

You just gotta, ignite the light, and let it shine
Just own the night, like the fourth of July.

Cause baby you’re a firework, come on show ‘em what you’re worth
Make ‘em go “Oh, oh, oh!” as you shoot across the sky-y-y.

Baby you’re a firework, come on let your colors burst
Make ‘em go “Oh, oh, oh!”
You’re gonna leave ‘em fallin’ down-own-own.

You don’t have to feel, like a wasted space
You’re original, cannot be replaced.

If you only knew what the future holds
After a hurricane comes a rainbow.

Maybe a reason why, all the doors are closed
So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road.

Like a lightning bolt, your heart will glow
And when it’s time you’ll know
You just gotta ignite the light, and let it shine
Just own the night, like the fourth of July.

Cause baby you’re a firework, come on show ‘em what you’re worth
Make ‘em go “Oh, oh, oh!” as you shoot across the sky-y-y.

Baby you’re a firework, come on let your colors burst
Make ‘em go “Oh, oh, oh!” You’re unbelievable and “Oh, oh, oh!”

Boom, boom, boom, even bright than the moon, moon, moon…
It’s always been inside of you, you, you…
And now it’s time to let it through-ough-ough…

Cause baby you’re a firework, come on show ‘em what you’re worth
Make ‘em go “Oh, oh, oh!” as you shoot across the sky-y-y.

Baby you’re a firework, come on let your colors burst
Make ‘em go “Oh, oh, oh!” You’re unbelievable and “Oh, oh, oh!”

Boom, boom, boom, even bright than the moon, moon, moon…
Boom, boom, boom, even bright than the moon, moon, moon…

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A post to come about my new category “Living Healthy 2011″…

I’ve got to do something… my weight is out of effing control.

And that’s no understatement.

Stay tuned.

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“OUR DOUBTS ARE TRAITORS, / AND
MAKE US LOSE THE GOOD WE OFT
MIGHT WIN / BY FEARING TO ATTEMPT …”
// FROM Measure for Measure
BY WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE

“DOUBT IS HUMBLE AND THAT IS WHAT
MAN NEEDS TO BE, CONSIDERING THAT
HUMAN HISTORY IS JUST A LITANY OF
GETTING SHIT DEAD WRONG.”
// BILL MAHER, Religulous

RESEARCH INDICATES THAT MORE THAN 40% OF BRIDES HAVE WEDDING ANXIETY. INTERESTINGLY, THE TERM “COLD FEET” ORIGINALLY MEANT “WITHOUT MEANS OR RESOURCES,” REFERRING TO A 1605 PLAY WHERE A CHARACTER WAS TOO POOR TO BUY SHOES. TODAY, THE TERM HAS EVOLVED TO MEAN “ANXIETY AND UNCERTAINTY ABOUT AN UNDERTAKING TO
THE POINT OF WITHDRAWING.” SOURCE: ASSOCIATED CONTENT

THE CERTAINTY EFFECT (OR ALLAIS PARADOX) IS ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT UTILITY THEORIES IN THE BEHAVIORAL AND SOCIAL SCIENCES. IT HOLDS THAT, GIVEN TWO OPTIONS, PEOPLE TEND TO SELECT THE SAFER CHOICE – THE ONE WITH A HIGHER CERTAINTY OF A GOOD OUTCOME – EVEN THOUGH THE OTHER MAY BE MORE REWARDING. SOURCE: Econometrica

I purchased a book written by Rainn Wilson and several other co-authors. It’s titled SoulPancake: Chew on Life’s Big Questions and it truly makes you wonder about those things that you don’t always think about. One of the topics I read this morning was what I am writing about today.

Do you have to experience doubt before you can reach certainty?
   :: Is there anything that should never be questioned?
   :: Why is it so hard to have faith?
   :: What can we learn from other people’s doubts?

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Is there anything that should never be questioned?
You know, I guess yeah, sure… we are allowed to question what happens in our lives and we can ask ourselves why things happen to us that we don’t understand. Realistically, will we ever get the answer we’re looking for? Will anyone truly be able to take away your questions about something? Why did this happen to me? Why did you have to drive there today? Why did I have to pick up the phone? Why did I wear these jeans today? Why didn’t I say one more I love you? Why didn’t I wake up 10 minutes earlier? Why isn’t he/she answering their phone?

Would any answer suffice? Why did this happen to me? If someone gave you a long explanation of why something happened to you, would you be content with their answer? Maybe, maybe not… but you ultimately have to be the one that answers why. No one will be able to tell you exactly what you want to hear… that’s just plain and simple and we all have to realize that. We can question why things happen to us, but ultimately the questioning has to stop after a certain point and you have to embrace what has happened to you and turn it into a blessing. Change your thought process just a little bit and try to understand why it happened to you. What did God (or a higher power) want you to know about yourself? What does he want you to learn from this? What can you do to help others and ensure the same thing doesn’t happen to them? What are the positives in a negative situation? I know, I know, we don’t always agree that there are positives in a negative situation, but …there are positives to ANY negatives and YOU have the choice to look at the situation that way. If you consistently question the past, what you did, what they did, why they drove that way, why so and so didn’t call you this morning, why I wore these jeans today…you’re going to wear yourself right down to the ground.

Take those things that you are questioning and write them down somewhere. List them out in question format and re-read them and instead of automatically thinking WHY in a negative sense, think WHY in a positive sense. Slowly with time, writing out the positives to any situation will not only change your view of the question, but it will help others too.

I don’t know about you but if I spent my entire life asking WHY in a negative way, I’d drive myself right off the deep end.

Remember… two negatives equal a positive.

Why is it so hard to have faith?
For some people, having faith just doesn’t come easy. They don’t believe that anything can change, nor do they believe that having faith will help them. They don’t understand the meanings of faith like those who believe in it do. I will tell you this… if I didn’t have faith in certain situations, I would be locked up in a 6′ x 6′ padded cell pulling my hair out. You HAVE to have faith in a situation that is out of your control. Having faith helps you let go… it helps you at least try to understand that question…why?

“I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” Matthews 17:20

I know it probably sounds corny, but like they always say… “Let go and Let God.” The emotional release that stems from that simple little quote can mean so so very much. It’s a mental release… if there is a will there is a way. If you have trouble finding faith in any situation, just stop… ask yourself what can go wrong, and out of the questions that could go wrong, ask yourself what you can do to fix them. What will go wrong? Can you stop it before it happens? Is it out of your control? Do you have a choice in the way it goes? Can you focus on having faith that it will all work out because it HAS to, or can you consistently just throw in the towel over and over again and always expect the worst in every situation.

You have a choice to be negative and always dwell on the past or the future or you can take control of what you can control and have faith that everything will work out in the end.

Your life is up to you… remember that.

What can we learn from other people’s doubts?
This one kind of makes me laugh. When people doubt me, I want to throw it back in their face all the more. Who are they to tell me that I can’t do something? If they haven’t gone through a situation, who are they to tell me it won’t work out the way I envision it? Like I said, YOU have a choice to live your life the way you want… if you want to let someone constantly throw negative jabs at you and let you think you’re not worth it or they’ll tell you that you’re not successful or that you just ruined your life over something… don’t listen to them! Take the negative jabs that they’ve just spewed at you and turn it around and blow it in their face. SHOW THEM that you are better than that; SHOW THEM that you aren’t that kind of person that they have just envisioned. YOU are better than that… and YOU have the choice to take their doubts and completely turn them around. Don’t turn them around FOR THEM but turn them around FOR YOURSELF.

If someone has doubt about you or a situation you’re in… then they don’t believe that you’re capable of whatever it is that’s happening. They don’t believe you can do it… and if anything, when they throw those negatives at you, THANK THEM! THANK THEM for letting you know that you’re not putting your true self out there… THANK THEM for giving you a heads up that you’re not standing up for yourself enough… THANK THEM for helping you put yourself first… THANK THEM for giving you the opportunity to open your eyes and realize how you can give yourself the credit you deserve. There are SO many positive things you can do when someone thinks so negatively about you or a situation you’re in. Think of the pleasure that people get when they tell you how worthless you are and how stupid you’re acting or how much of a mistake you just made? Think about it. What are they telling you? Do they have the right to tell you you’re worthless or stupid or made a bad choice? NO! Sure, they can think that, but WHY let it get to you? Take those negative thoughts and RUN WITH IT. Show yourself that you’re better than that because clearly they think they’re kicking you while you’re down, per say.

Stand up for yourself and SHOW THEM that you’re better than that. Don’t let someone’s doubts control your life; who are they to criticize?

So… the question… do you have to reach doubt before you can reach certainty? Absolutely!

“A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her.” –David Brinkley

“Other people’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.” –Les Brown

“I’ve spent most of my life walking under that hovering cloud, jealousy, whose acid raindrops blurred my vision and burned holes in my heart. Once I learned to use the umbrella of confidence, the skies cleared up for me and the sunshine called joy became my faithful companion.” -Astrid Alauda

Stay well. Have courage. Believe in Yourself.