Karma My Friends

*Names have been changed to protect privacy of 2 of the 3 people I am mentioning in my letter.

Dear Mr. …errr, wait… he doesn’t deserve a Mr.

Let’s try this again…

Dear Crap D. Bag aka Crappy Douche Bag,

I happen to have a few little words to say to you.  I know, I know… I don’t know you, you don’t know me.  You don’t have to listen to me, and you really can put your fingers in your ears and close your eyes and say, “I cannnn’t heaaaaaaarrrrr youuuuuu”.   Oh wait, sorry about that… I thought I was talking to a child here!  I forgot I’m dealing with a grown man who has a wife and child at home!  Oops, my bad!

So Crappy, yes…that’s you; I could come up with far far FAR more exciting words to call you right now but, I’ll save those for another time.  I’m sure there will be another letter like this in the future… I’m not stupid; you’re an asshole, and 9 times out of 10, the assholes always keep appearing.  Little do you know though, I’m actually on your 10th little nickname… well, wait… I think I’ve lost count.  Are you catching my drift? My drift that you are in your mid twenties, have a 7-8 month old daughter at home and a wife you’ve known for ohhh, let’s count shall we… take your other hand off of your girlfriends lap; you’ll need both hands and all 10 of your fingers to count this one.  Ready?  One…Two…Three…Seven and a half… Seven and a half whole years Crappy, can you believe you have known a woman for that long, a woman you can call your spouse and the young age of being in your 20′s?  For the beautiful wife you have/had, you have no idea what you’re giving up. What marriage doesn’t have their fair share of troubles?  Most marriages will get through them with time, one way or another by leaning on each other or other friends.  However, sometimes they do not always get through them with their family or friends, or kind of sort of leaning on each other… sometimes they get through them just by having sex with another chick that you work with, in an Ambulance.  Oh wait… sorry, that’s you I’m talking about.  Scratch that.  Most of the time if the marriages don’t work out, each party will go their own separate way, work out the bumps in the road if their are children involved and figure out custody/child support, etc and then life starts heading different directions for each of you.

I don’t know of too many wives who have had their husband tell them on a Sunday that they’ve been sleeping with a coworker, and then the next day threaten the wife who only a few months prior as husband and wife, agreed that she (your wife) would now stay home with your NEWBORN daughter.  Most MEN… no, not you… you’re a boy… most MEN own up to their faults and accept what they have done wrong and that they have started this shit storm themselves.  Most men and I know, there are some reaaaaal douche bags out there… oh wait, thats your middle and last name.  Sorry, didn’t mean to get so specific; ANYways, most men will care enough about their 7 month old daughter to keep to the house paid for, bills paid for, money to your wife for groceries, medicine, doctor visits, gas, etc… most MEN would not think twice about that.  Especially if they caused this horrific situation by committing ADULTERY and leaving their then wife and 7 month old at home with no where to go.  But no… NO!  Instead, some assholes like Crap D. Bag – sorry, didn’t mean to point fingers… some assholes decide that… “Oh, I’m going to pork another chick, leave my wife hanging with NO job even though as husband and wife a few months prior we made the decision to have wife stay home with newborn” …etc, you get my point.

You know?  Just for shits and giggles… let’s trace back to all the beautiful sweet nothings you have told that wife of yours… let’s do it together, shall we?  No? Why not?  You don’t want to own up to your actions? You don’t want to realize that you just gave up EVERYTHING you had to be with a needy little bitch who is going to throw you out on the street some day?  Oh wait, she would never do that… Or, well… I wonder how she felt today when that sweet little cop showed up at your door of your new apartment where you moved in with your girlfriend because you were having sex with her while your wife of 4 years, significant other of 7.5 years is at home taking care of your 7 month old daughter that you had together… I wonder what she thought of that?  Mr. Officer showing up at that wonderful door, serving you those sweet sweet restraining order papers.  Now that I think about it though, she must be a complete dumb shit to be sticking around with you after all of the shit you have pulled the past month.  I guess that’s just kind of like killing two birds with one stone… two dipshits dating, you know each of you kind of cancel each other out.

Anyways, oh yes… where were we… Restraining order!  How’d that happen there Mr. D. Bag?  Let’s rehash this, shall we?  Step by step..

1. You shut off the internet at your home, the home you had with your wife and 7 month old daughter.
2. Left wife hanging with no job, since she was a stay at home mom to care for your 7 month old daughter.
3. Made your wife think that “If I was smart, I would have known my husband was not just working late.”
4. The day after you told her you were cheating on her, you removed ALL MONEY from all accounts, changed all passwords, made it so no credit cards worked, etc… remember, refer back to number 2… are you really that low?
5. Made your wife think that she is “Stupid and weak and hate it.”  …note cool bucko.
6. Moved in with your new “girlfriend” only a few weeks after you started dating.
7. Bounced the rent check because you took your paycheck away to another account and then a ton of fees stacked up.  …you? are an idddddddddddioooott.  Yes, yes… you Crap D. Bag.
8. Your WIFE told you she is leaving with your baby because she has no other options of employment or child care where you are currently living – because remember? You left her high and dry… refer to number 2… and you are continuously threatening your wife now that she told you this.
9. Being extremely angry and finding any way you can to hurt your WIFE since YOU can’t keep her from leaving!  You have no right to hold her back, just like she has no right to hold you back if you were in your wife’s shoes.
10. You went “home” to put your daughter to bed, and she cried non stop until her mom picked her up.  *DING DONG* this is just the start, buddy.  Funny thing is?  Your daughter stopped crying when your wife picked her up!
11.  Threatened your wife so bad she had to file a restraining order on you.
12. Make your wife have nightmares.
13. Threatened kidnapping charges on your wife if she left with your child.
14. Told your wife that you “didn’t want to be married anymore”  CoughBULLSHITCough …oh please.
15. Told your wife you filled out forms that don’t even exist.  Idiot, do you think she is stupid?
16. Threatened to kill your wife, after you threatened your wife that you WILL have custody of your child.  Do you REALLY think any judge with even the smallest brain is going to let the father who threatens his wife that he is going to kill her?
17. Cleaned out the checking out, and set up a new one so all of your paychecks go into that new account.  Refer back to number 2.
18. You filed for sole custody.  *pfffft* sorry, didn’t mean to laugh at you.  Refer to #16.
19. Lied and said your lawyer said something that they didn’t say because it isn’t legally true.  Idiot.
20. Thinking you can run your wife and childs life by not giving your wife any money, and just “dropping off food and formula” …because that will do a ton of good in the long run.  What about your daughter’s doctor appointments? What if there is an emergency? It’s not like your wife can just shit out a new job and wam bam forget about you.  She needs your money for a little while, you are your families sole supporter – this was a decision made by you, and your wife once your daughter came in to the world, and now you’re going to turn around and use it against her?
21. Threatening to take away your wifes vehicle.
22. Just telling your wife, “I’m coming over to see her tomorrow” –maybe you should have thought about having that kind of freedom before you started having an affair?
23. Told your wife, “Fine, you will starve” because she wouldn’t let you come over to see baby.  No more money in the bank account.  Refer back to #2.
24.  Told your wife that she will starve, yet you went out and bought a brand new gadget, while oodles of bills are due.
25. After your wife told you she filed a protective order you told her, “Fine, you’ll just look nuts.”  EXCUSE ME?  HUH?
26. Got livid when your wife told you the taking the car was in the protective order, so you cannot do that.  ”LIVID”  So, you don’t care if you wife doesn’t have a car? What if your baby has a doctor appointment?
27. Told your wife, after she filed the protective order that she has 30 days to be out of the apartment.
28. And then you have the nerve to say since you are the “tenant” and your wife is the “occupant” that you can kick her out?  UHM? WHO the hell had the affair and cheated on their wife and caused this uproar in the first place?  What husband and father would kick their wife and baby out of the house on the street with no income?  Refer back to #2.
29.  …there are far too many other things that for one I probably don’t even know and for two don’t need to be mentioned because there are enough already to hold your ass accountable for what you’ve done.

I really truthfully hope with every fiber of my being that you realize what big of a problem you have caused, and I hope you see how bad you have hurt your wife and daughter.  You are having sex with another woman that is not your wife.  You deserve to have everything made an absolute living hell for you, and I mean that… LIVING HELL.

You know, because… well, just take my tweet from earlier… let it go straight to your heart.  Just be glad I don’t live near you, or I’d have to be restrained.

You my little Crappy DoucheBag?  You better like the heat because it’ll be a cold day in hell before you win this case.

Karma is a bitch, and everyone is judged in the end.  Remember that, especially after the final shit you have pulled today that your wife has said… you really really REALLY have no idea what’s coming, you fucking asshole.  Yes, you Crap D. Bag.

I sure hope your mom and dad are proud of the sweet boy they’ve raised, the sweet boy who committed adultery, and lives with his girlfriend while threatening his wife and child’s lives.  Awesome!  You should be SO proud of yourself, too!

What wife should have to write about this?  ”He then proceeded to tell me that he was on his way over with a police escort to get the truck. I told him that was out of the question, then he said: “Okay, well tonight you are out. Pack your stuff and leave.” I called the magistrate, and there is no way he can do that.  I had an appointment at 4 pm today to meet, FINALLY, with an attorney. No sooner had we sat down to begin to review my case, then I received a text from him: “I’m coming to see baby*.” I called my friend babysitting at my house with her own 10 month old, at the attorney’s advice. I asked her to pack up baby and run. Until he has the order in hand, he can come take her, he can take my truck, whatever, and it’s all legal. After I had called her, the attorney advised me to just run back home, and reschedule. At this point, I’m so angry, I’m shaking. It takes me twice as long to get home because it’s nearly rush hour and pouring down rain.  I called 911 and asked for an officer to meet me at home, which he did, thankfully. A grabbed the babies and ran across the street to wait for my other friend to meet her.  That friend then switched me trucks so I could go back to the apt to meet the officer, in case Crap D. Bag was there.  The officer was very kind and understanding; I imagine he sees things like this all the time with more unfortunate outcomes.  I’m so angry, I’m typing through tears now. I can’t believe this. I couldn’t make it to the WIC/aid office after all of this happened, I spent way too long at the courthouse. I’ll be going tomorrow, but what if something else happens? How long do I have to keep watching out the window, making sure they are locked and that my car stays in it’s parking place? How much longer do we go without? How can he get away with this?”

Crap D. Bag? You have a special spot in hell, with YOUR name on it.  Rest assured; you’ll stay niiiiice and warmmmm.

What goes around, comes around and you’re first on the list.

Your new friend, who wants to tie you up and throw you out into oncoming traffic,

Snarky Kisses

P.S:  I will thank you though for allowing me to get to know such an amazing woman; I wish I could have met her a different way… but, she’s only going to come out stronger and more independant than when you left her… and that right there is enough to smile about.  She’s one tough cookie, and you don’t know who you’re messing with.

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A, this is for you…

You have no idea how strong you are, and how much determination you have in this.  You absolutely refuse to back down and let him win, and for that you will always always always be grateful.  I can clearly see how much you care about the wellbeing of your daughter and how much you care about your future.  You will soon see, even if it isn’t for the next few months… but you will soon see that the things you are going through right now, are only going to make you that much better of a mother and person in general.  Someday you will find the perfect soulmate who treats you like you deserve to be treated.  No woman, mother, human being deserves to receive the threats that you have received thus far.  You are an inspiration to all the others who are unfortunately going through something similar.  You are not alone, always remember that.  I am so glad I go the opportunity to have met you/started talking with you.  You truly are a gift to that sweet little angel of yours, and she is SO lucky to have you… as are we online.

xoxoxo,
Krystle

…and for those of you who are unaware of who I am talking about, feel free to comment and I can link to her blog – or DM me on Twitter @snarkykisses –I just don’t want to risk linking anything to her, for fear of nutso searching for her online.

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